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Offline lovedonelost

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Finally ready to tell my story
« on: June 25, 2011, 08:32:55 AM »
Hi Everyone!

I have been a member of this site for some time and a "stalker" before that.  I'm now ready to explain why I'm here  :) 

In 1987 my Uncle was murdered and robbed by his girlfriends son.  I was a senior in high school at that time and there isn't  a day that I do not think about this tragic event that changed my family forever.  Due to our lack of knowledge and state of shock, we agreed to allow the Prosecutor to agree to a plea deal.  He was sentenced to 20 yrs. to life for the murder and 8 to 15 yrs. for the robbery.  Little did we know that he would have his 1st parole hearing after only 6 years!  Subsequently after the 1st parole hearing and having to relive all the tragic events that occurred....we had to do this again and again every couple of years unless of course he received a special hearing due to some jailhouse lawyer winning a point on their case which was similar in facts or sentencing and then we'd be faced with it more frequently.  On January 17, 2007 he was paroled from prison.  Not a day goes by that I do not worry about the safety of my family with this murderer running free.  There is no healing and there is no closure, but I believe if he would have received the DP, my family would now be able to live in peace.

I am totally Pro DP and my heart goes out to any person who has ever had to live through the murder of a loved one.  Thank you for this wonderful site!
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Re: Finally ready to tell my story
« Reply #1 on: June 25, 2011, 09:27:46 AM »
Welcome

How I empathise with you. The murderer of my ward lives nice and free in Paris. I hope that you will find support and friendship here and the occasional laugh!
best :-* :-* :-*
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Re: Finally ready to tell my story
« Reply #2 on: June 25, 2011, 09:53:07 AM »
Quote from: lovedonelost on June 25, 2011, 08:32:55 AM
On January 17, 2007 he was paroled from prison.  Not a day goes by that I do not worry about the safety of my family with this murderer running free. 


This is why I would advise not to testify at parole hearings.  It re-open the wound and puts you at risk for what you may say.    I wouldn't be surpised if the parole boards, as opposed to juries at the penalty phase, do not even consider what the families have to say.   That would be adding an insult to the injury because they listen attentively to the prisoner.   
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Re: Finally ready to tell my story
« Reply #3 on: June 25, 2011, 10:21:24 AM »
My heart goes out to you and your family for having to live with the fact that this murderer is now free to continue on his killing ways.   :-* :-*





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Re: Finally ready to tell my story
« Reply #4 on: June 25, 2011, 10:41:24 AM »
Quote from: lovedonelost on June 25, 2011, 08:32:55 AM
Hi Everyone!

I have been a member of this site for some time and a "stalker" before that.  I'm now ready to explain why I'm here  :) 

In 1987 my Uncle was murdered and robbed by his girlfriends son.  I was a senior in high school at that time and there isn't  a day that I do not think about this tragic event that changed my family forever.  Due to our lack of knowledge and state of shock, we agreed to allow the Prosecutor to agree to a plea deal.  He was sentenced to 20 yrs. to life for the murder and 8 to 15 yrs. for the robbery.  Little did we know that he would have his 1st parole hearing after only 6 years!  Subsequently after the 1st parole hearing and having to relive all the tragic events that occurred....we had to do this again and again every couple of years unless of course he received a special hearing due to some jailhouse lawyer winning a point on their case which was similar in facts or sentencing and then we'd be faced with it more frequently.  On January 17, 2007 he was paroled from prison.  Not a day goes by that I do not worry about the safety of my family with this murderer running free.  There is no healing and there is no closure, but I believe if he would have received the DP, my family would now be able to live in peace.

I am totally Pro DP and my heart goes out to any person who has ever had to live through the murder of a loved one.  Thank you for this wonderful site!

 

Though of no consolation to you, the laws were changed shortly after the murder of your uncle.  Non DP sentences are much higher with no parole or with the possibility of parole only after they served the majority of the sentence.  However, 20 years later, the thug lovers are chipping away at that, too. Not only do they want to abolish the DP but they want to abolish both lwop and life with parole, IOW, make our sentencing similar to europe.

As to testifying at parole hearings or providing letters to the parole board, it should always be done.  Parole boards do consider the input of the victim's family and I know of paroles that were denied solely based on the victim's family input.

As to your safety, there is a good chance he is back in prison.  Many state DOCs now have inmate locator websites. You may want to check to see if he is back in custody.
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Re: Finally ready to tell my story
« Reply #5 on: June 25, 2011, 11:17:36 AM »
Love - my heartfelt condolences to you and your family for the tragedy you all have had to suffer through and live with.   :-*

If I may ask, what state were you in at the time that this happened to your Uncle?
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Re: Finally ready to tell my story
« Reply #6 on: June 25, 2011, 12:40:56 PM »
Welcome to the forum. My sympathies to you that the lose of your Uncle and the disrespect the judicial system had for you and your family is what brought you here.

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Re: Finally ready to tell my story
« Reply #7 on: June 25, 2011, 01:45:27 PM »
My condolences to you.

What state was it?
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Re: Finally ready to tell my story
« Reply #8 on: June 26, 2011, 12:29:41 PM »
Dear lovedonelost,


I would like to say that I am verry sorry for this great drama :'( :-[

Welcome to this site/forum :-*

Here you will find a lot of support and you will discover persons with a sweetheart :-*

Don't hesitate to write to us and to discuss with us :)

Again welcome here :-*







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Re: Finally ready to tell my story
« Reply #9 on: June 26, 2011, 05:05:14 PM »
 :-*  Your story is quite similar to my own, and I truly do understand how you feel with worrying about your family's safety.  Thankfully we no longer have to worry - he hung himself in prison, but it was always on the back of our minds for 20 years.

Hope you find solace here  :-*
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Re: Finally ready to tell my story
« Reply #10 on: June 26, 2011, 07:27:00 PM »
I'm so sorry for your loss, I think you will find much understanding here.

If you are the same Lovedonelost from PTO, I am also very sorry for your very recent and very painful and unneccessary loss    :-*
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Re: Finally ready to tell my story
« Reply #11 on: June 27, 2011, 04:17:40 PM »
Quote from: JeffB on June 25, 2011, 11:17:36 AM
Love - my heartfelt condolences to you and your family for the tragedy you all have had to suffer through and live with.   :-*

If I may ask, what state were you in at the time that this happened to your Uncle?


It was Cuyahoga County in The state of Ohio.

Thank you for your condolences they are much appreciated.
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Re: Finally ready to tell my story
« Reply #12 on: June 27, 2011, 04:22:38 PM »
Quote from: Wicket on June 26, 2011, 07:27:00 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss, I think you will find much understanding here.

If you are the same Lovedonelost from PTO, I am also very sorry for your very recent and very painful and unneccessary loss    :-*


No, I'm not a member of PTO.  I love this site!  It is very hard sometimes to discuss things that have happened or how you are feeling to your friends because they just do not get it because they have never been through anything so tragic.  Thanks again!
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Re: Finally ready to tell my story
« Reply #13 on: June 27, 2011, 04:28:26 PM »
I'm sorry for that confusion Lovedonelost,

but I am glad that you haven't suffered the tragic loss of your wife to suicide in prison recently :-)

The people here are supportive, intelligent and you will always have someone to chat to should the need arise. I'm glad you signed up, so many of us know what it is to go through this and can offer you some comfort.

Welcome aboard and again, I am sorry for confusing you with someone else!  :-* :-* I feel like an  :-\
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Re: Finally ready to tell my story
« Reply #14 on: June 27, 2011, 04:31:41 PM »
Quote from: Gregg Fisher on June 25, 2011, 10:41:24 AM
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Though of no consolation to you, the laws were changed shortly after the murder of your uncle.  Non DP sentences are much higher with no parole or with the possibility of parole only after they served the majority of the sentence.  However, 20 years later, the thug lovers are chipping away at that, too. Not only do they want to abolish the DP but they want to abolish both lwop and life with parole, IOW, make our sentencing similar to europe.

As to testifying at parole hearings or providing letters to the parole board, it should always be done.  Parole boards do consider the input of the victim's family and I know of paroles that were denied solely based on the victim's family input.

As to your safety, there is a good chance he is back in prison.  Many state DOCs now have inmate locator websites. You may want to check to see if he is back in custody.


Greg it is true things have changed.....boy do I wish I knew then what I know now because I would have tried to do more.  As far as I can tell he is not back in custody.  When he was released I actually had to petition the parole board to request that a no contact order be part of his release agreement.  He was suppose to be on 5 year mndatory supervision with a parole officer, but they released him from that after a little over 3 yrs.  Now I can no longer check up on him because he has made all his myspace/facebook profiles private.  I just hope he doesn't hurt anyone else.  Thank you for all your information.

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